I love this piece because I really do believe that a top’s consent is as important as a bottom’s consent — but it’s talked about far less often.

One of the things that’s required to gain my consent to top someone is the feeling that I have enough knowledge to understand that what I’m doing to them is what they really, really want, and that it won’t harm them. And that generally means actual words have to come out of the bottom’s actual mouth.

Some people, even kinky people, are surprisingly squeamish about their own desires, and that turns into fetishizing a romantic, psychic, uber-dom who will sweep them away and ravish them without them ever having to do that pesky self-examination of their own desires and *blush* expressing it to another person.

Have they ever looked at that fantasy from the top’s point of view? Any reasonable or ethical top would be pretty uncertain or hesitant (at which point the I Want The Psychic Uber Dom sub promptly decides that their hesitation isn’t prudence but instead evidence that they are not a Twue Dominant).

@Airial- Thank you! I’m glad you enjoyed it. While the goal isn’t necessarily for monoflexible to become the new tag phrase or anything of the nature, if people find it’s something that fits them better and it becomes more widespread, I’m all for it!

Now, we need to see if we can promulgate the hell out of this sucker!

•Kudos•

xx Dee