Introversion/Extroversion
Posted by Gabe | Filed under Harlotry, Relationships
I’ve long thought of myself as an introvert. I’ve tested as an INFP for as long as I can remember taking Myers/Briggs and Keirsey Temperament Sorter. I’ve always generally been quiet in groups, and it often takes me a while before I’m less than quiet even one on one. Socializing in groups is fun, but it also tends to leave me emotionally and mentally exhausted. Elizabeth is much the same, though her introversion is less than mine. She does better in groups, at least in small ones, than I do. She can and does converse more than me at munches, for example.
Why is it, then, that group sexual activity invigorates me? Elizabeth and I both enjoy it, but while she needs quiet time to recover (much like we both do after most social events), I’m soaring on an emotional high for days afterward and missing my tangle of bodies. It seems contrary to our way of being in other social situations.
What I realized recently, though, is that it’s not the interaction with others that tires me or wears at my introverted self. It’s the shallowness (said without judgment) of relating. Sitting around having polite conversation grates on me. More interesting, but still surface level, conversation is better, but I still need to recharge afterward if it’s in a group setting. But you give me a serious, in-depth, emotional, intimate conversation and I’m completely on my game. I get more and more energy from participating. If I can find a way to really relate to people then I become more of an extrovert. It’s not necessarily the number of people, or even the length of the interaction, that determines how I respond. It’s the intimacy level. The higher it goes the more I’m drawn in and fed by the experience.
So after group sex, particularly very open sex with lots of talking and questions, I am emotionally, spiritually and intellectually charged! The more I feel that I’ve let my authentic self interact with others’ authentic selves, the more I feel fed by the experience. I become an extrovert.
